how-to-keep-girls-in-your-gaming-group

[boombrakh]

Boom is really fair, exept against me. He always sends giant weasels to eat my characters!

That is because you are so yummy! and you belong in my tummy! With that other dummy! And his mummy! So you can all get chummy!

[MaskedIllusion]

This topic is offensive to me.

Your offense is offensive to me.

[Mikayla]

Its a pretty good guide for not alienating us. I was surprised at how many different topics it covered, and covered pretty well ... and then ... there was this one:

In the "Don't do this:"
Don’t ask or comment or joke about the female player’s or her character’s period.

Perfectly good advice.

And then the corresponding "Do this"
Just don't. Period.

Really? Really? Couldn't resist eh? Alas, I cannot complain too much because the article was written by a woman so she brought that one on herself.

The things we do …

Anyway, in general, the article has a lot of good advice. ALFA, however, is one of the most gender-friendly gaming environments I’ve ever seen (that and Vampire games of course). My pen-n-paper group, however, could probably use a look at this article (well, one or two of them – the rest are pretty good).

M.

[Ronan]

...stuff...

tl; dr. Where's my sammich!?

[fluffmonster]

Demon rape.. . Every table has a Freakboy i guess.

Yes, there was a dm here who did that.

[Mikayla]

Freakboy, there is a name from the early days. Talk about ancient memories ...

[kid]

This topic is offensive to me.

Your offense is offensive to me.

Your face is offensive to me.

[Veilan]

What a piece of trite and sexism.

[Darkmystic]

Le gasp, treat people like people. How dare someone suggest that? Lets all make fun out of it!

[maxcell]

Freakboy, there is a name from the early days. Talk about ancient memories ...

Wikipedia - 'ancient' - see Fluff

[FoamBats4All]

Demon rape.. . Every table has a Freakboy i guess.

Yes, there was a dm here who did that.

More than one!

[Inwintersshadow]

Reminiscing on my life through the mists of prehistory I recall what it was like to be in my teens and twenties. While I believe the article is good for its purpose of educating an all-male player group on effectively integrating girls into their groups it misses on one very important note.

It assumes its intended audience will actually read it.

I can't speak for anyone else but being preached to or told what to do by anyone I didn't absolutely have to listen to wasn't going to happen when I was that age. Not for sexist reasons but like many young males I had the "rebel without a clue" mentality.

And that mindset doesn't readily allow for open-mindedness...

[t-ice]

It assumes its intended audience will actually read it.

I can't speak for anyone else but being preached to or told what to do by anyone I didn't absolutely have to listen to wasn't going to happen when I was that age. Not for sexist reasons but like many young males I had the "rebel without a clue" mentality.

Dunno. Put "gaming" and "girls" in a same sentence, and you're as likely as it gets to get attention.

[Veilan]

"gaming" and "girls"

I didn't read what what t-ice said but it seems we should pay attention to it and consider it culturally relevant.

[MorbidKate]

It's not rocket science.

Rule 1. Don't be a dick OOC

Done.