Sad things to share not sure why

[Galadorn]

Might be strange to post such here, but in truth, I feel like most of you, hell all of you are like an extension of my own family sometimes. I certainly interact with many of you on a daily basis with serious, fun, emotional feelings, etc, so I just felt like i'd share and give respect to anyone else who have experienced what i'm going through now.

My best friend's mother, you know, the best friend you have since grade school... he's been mine for over 30 years, well his mother was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer a while back and the Chemo did not work. She's resting at home with her family, and i'm all the way over here and cannot be with them. I'm a bit happy though, at the same time, as my best friend had his first daughter only a few months ago, after when the doctors said his mother would not make it... so she did make it passed the birth of my friend's daughter so i'm sure seeing that little treasure, she felt some sincere relief, happiness, and pride.

none of this has anything to do with you all, but again, see above for how I usually feel about all of you in that long term "know you well even though we never met" kind of internet way. ALFA is just the medium through which we communicate a lot of gaming, but also a lot of personal shit.

Anyway, i suppose my post is to say that any of you who have certainly felt the way I do now, I want to just say I feel it now and hope you all are happy and well. I might be a tad strange in game, or miss planned sessions possibly, especially if I fly back home for a while to be with her, and her family and my friend. Cheers ALFA and thanks for making me smile as often as I do with all of you.

[dergon darkhelm]

Keep your head up. If you want to chit chat in tells or facebook or whatever I'm happy to do so.

Sad times......it's OK to be sad.

I'll see you in there.

[maxcell]

Sorry to hear it, you're my hero. I am sure it is a hard time for you, as a best friend's mom can sometimes be like a 2nd mom. I bet your friend is glad you are there in conctact, and in spirit if you can't be physically and that says alot about you.

[johnlewismcleod]

Very sorry to hear it, Gala. I understand completely. I lost my stepmother to cancer six years ago and feel as you do about friends.

Steady on, mate...and best wishes to you friend and his family.

[CloudDancing]

Take care of yourself and I hope you can find some peace in your travels.

CD.
(who lost 3 grandparents to cancer before their time)

[Ithildur]

Cancer is a grim enemy; I lost my dad to pancreatic cancer nearly ten years ago; I still miss him a lot. Things like this can bring a different perspective on life (and death).

Hope the best for you and your friend, and his family, and the rest of their time with her.

[I-KP]

I lost my mum to cancer when I was 15 – we watched her slowly disappear over a period of months, powerless to do a damn thing about it. I'll never forget my father's words when he broke the new to me: "Your mum has cancer and they can't cure it. Now that I've made a fool of myself I'll be upstairs." The wounds never heal but coping mechanisms start to take over, they have to really otherwise you'll lose yourself within it all. My dad never got over it and died of a broken heart a few years later.

Sounds grim, doesn't it; but the important thing to remember is that you’re not alone, people do understand, and that great strength and comfort can be found in accepting compassion from those nearest and dearest - which is something that I wasn’t able to do when I needed it most, I realise that now. You’re old enough and ugly enough not to let something as silly as pride get in the way of a good cry on someone’s shoulder if needs be; it really does help sometimes.

Deepest sympathies. (Those words still sound hollow to me but- well, what can be said.)

I’m starting to well up now so I’ll be leaving it at that I think.