Thank you, I'll try to sort through the BS and try to figure out which of you are unsoiled virigins trying to advise me, and for those of you who know what a real woman smells like, thanks.
Could any ladies pipe in here and offer their thoughts on the first post? My purposes in SL are to avoid the biological reactions I give women; good or bad; and to meet someone for the sake of meeting someone and learning more about the other half.
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Dating is getting alot easier, and knowing how to write effectively your feelings and emotes is very important. Meeting real women is getting easier and easier. The amusement you get from shooting a flirtacious glance at a who's been looking at you is GOLD. Though if you shoot something like that out of nowhere, you simply look creepy. Work it up with a bit of subtle flexing, while doing something related. Flirting is harmless, and free, and best performed with finesse.
Getting to know someone also seems to be a very important part of meeting women. A woman who knows you, and likes you, and has gotten to know you is apt to be much more open to the idea of going dancing with you and getting close. A woman who considers you a friend today, may decide she "likes" you tomorrow.
Like anything, flirting takes practice. It seems that women really REALLY love being complimented and having all your attention, and showing disinterest in what they consider personal imperfections. Radiate affection, not lewd comments, on what makes them pretty. Above all, I've found women tend to dislike insincerity. Anyone who says they go up to woman and instantly inquires about sex, and scores alot for their broavado is probably a liar, or the woman merely morons who're dead for the neck up. Those are also the morons who go around SL naked with their junk hanging out in PG zones.
Talking to women who could only be friends, and having female friends who are not interested in you as a man is also important. They can provide you insighte and help in case you're wondering what your ladyfriend is possibly thinking, and if your current date might not be female. I need to check one catgirl out to make sure I'm not living the song Lola; attractive, yes, but hm... na.
Women also love knowing they smell nice, in SL you can't smell a girl (of course) but most women seem to enjoy smell-oriented tells. IE You smell wonderful, etc. I'm not giving away my secret techniques in this area, find your own. Also, know when a women is playing with you, play right back. Sauce returned for sauce delt depends on the individual.
Always working sublty toward home base, seems to be the best rout, though most everyone don't want to see big John Henry while you're deep into a flirt. She'll tell you when to stop, or show it, and listening to her seems to work well; maintaining the level of heat she wants. It's like they want to hover around second base for awhile and have some fun, while slipping into third. Learning to read reactions seems very important. Also, some woman seem far more suseptable to suduction than others. It's something growing to worry about; laying it on too thickly on too many women, and then breaking alot of hearts when I choose one. I don't want that, but I'm worried its an inevetability. Most of the women I've met don't know eachother from adam, but it's a small world.
Lastly, don't be affraid to get a nasty case of blue#%@s. If she has to go, make sure you know you really really want to go, but you understand ther needs. She needs to go to bed to work in the morning, don't make her resent the preasure, but make sure she knows you want it.
Lastly, women like physical presance. Mostly muscles and highgene. Working out is in your best interest, or at least staying slim and being able to show muscle definition. Lines along your forarms, the way your shirt hangs off your upper body, all of that seems to give women a charge. Women also like it when you feel good to be around. Mr. Personality seem to be more of a babe magnet, than Mr Hide By The Plants. Includeing yourself in conversation is important, even if innane. It seems to be part of the human social ridtuals everyone must go through, despite it being just nonsense. It also shows others how intelligent you are if you can cary a decent and interesting converastion, as well as provoke conversation in others.
I've still alot left to learn. Still haven't been intimate with anyone in SL yet, but one woman today did take off her top in the middle of a club while we were dancing close. I did my best to use my chest hands and jacket to keep her decent in a club where most everyone was naked anyway. ^_^ They were having a best male and female strip-contest, but we were to busy with eachother to noice anyone else. Again wishing SL was RL. Maybe within the year, and I've gotten a better hold of RL flirting other than causing young women to giggle or drop things.
With Sauce,
Charlie
Dating is getting alot easier, and knowing how to write effectively your feelings and emotes is very important. Meeting real women is getting easier and easier. The amusement you get from shooting a flirtacious glance at a who's been looking at you is GOLD. Though if you shoot something like that out of nowhere, you simply look creepy. Work it up with a bit of subtle flexing, while doing something related. Flirting is harmless, and free, and best performed with finesse.
Getting to know someone also seems to be a very important part of meeting women. A woman who knows you, and likes you, and has gotten to know you is apt to be much more open to the idea of going dancing with you and getting close. A woman who considers you a friend today, may decide she "likes" you tomorrow.
Like anything, flirting takes practice. It seems that women really REALLY love being complimented and having all your attention, and showing disinterest in what they consider personal imperfections. Radiate affection, not lewd comments, on what makes them pretty. Above all, I've found women tend to dislike insincerity. Anyone who says they go up to woman and instantly inquires about sex, and scores alot for their broavado is probably a liar, or the woman merely morons who're dead for the neck up. Those are also the morons who go around SL naked with their junk hanging out in PG zones.
Talking to women who could only be friends, and having female friends who are not interested in you as a man is also important. They can provide you insighte and help in case you're wondering what your ladyfriend is possibly thinking, and if your current date might not be female. I need to check one catgirl out to make sure I'm not living the song Lola; attractive, yes, but hm... na.
Women also love knowing they smell nice, in SL you can't smell a girl (of course) but most women seem to enjoy smell-oriented tells. IE You smell wonderful, etc. I'm not giving away my secret techniques in this area, find your own. Also, know when a women is playing with you, play right back. Sauce returned for sauce delt depends on the individual.
Always working sublty toward home base, seems to be the best rout, though most everyone don't want to see big John Henry while you're deep into a flirt. She'll tell you when to stop, or show it, and listening to her seems to work well; maintaining the level of heat she wants. It's like they want to hover around second base for awhile and have some fun, while slipping into third. Learning to read reactions seems very important. Also, some woman seem far more suseptable to suduction than others. It's something growing to worry about; laying it on too thickly on too many women, and then breaking alot of hearts when I choose one. I don't want that, but I'm worried its an inevetability. Most of the women I've met don't know eachother from adam, but it's a small world.
Lastly, don't be affraid to get a nasty case of blue#%@s. If she has to go, make sure you know you really really want to go, but you understand ther needs. She needs to go to bed to work in the morning, don't make her resent the preasure, but make sure she knows you want it.
Lastly, women like physical presance. Mostly muscles and highgene. Working out is in your best interest, or at least staying slim and being able to show muscle definition. Lines along your forarms, the way your shirt hangs off your upper body, all of that seems to give women a charge. Women also like it when you feel good to be around. Mr. Personality seem to be more of a babe magnet, than Mr Hide By The Plants. Includeing yourself in conversation is important, even if innane. It seems to be part of the human social ridtuals everyone must go through, despite it being just nonsense. It also shows others how intelligent you are if you can cary a decent and interesting converastion, as well as provoke conversation in others.
I've still alot left to learn. Still haven't been intimate with anyone in SL yet, but one woman today did take off her top in the middle of a club while we were dancing close. I did my best to use my chest hands and jacket to keep her decent in a club where most everyone was naked anyway. ^_^ They were having a best male and female strip-contest, but we were to busy with eachother to noice anyone else. Again wishing SL was RL. Maybe within the year, and I've gotten a better hold of RL flirting other than causing young women to giggle or drop things.
With Sauce,
Charlie
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Nothing like discussing how to get wimminz on a DnD geekfest forum. Because we are all experts. 
However, I will share a bit of backwards psychiatry:
A woman feels like she's getting to know you better if you can keep her talking about herself.
Ask questions about where she's from, where she works, what she likes to do. Maintain visible interest in her responses. Get her number.
However, I will share a bit of backwards psychiatry:
A woman feels like she's getting to know you better if you can keep her talking about herself.
Ask questions about where she's from, where she works, what she likes to do. Maintain visible interest in her responses. Get her number.
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My girlfriend always says thatNESchampion wrote:Similarly, but with higher risk online that the person you're talking to has a surprise in the form of man parts I would imagine.The_Phoenyxx wrote:Of course, I'm talking about real life situations. Not sure how it applies to the virtual world...
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There are some sick people on the net.
On an unrelated note:
Good luck Charlie. Also, if you ever figure out how a guy who has a ton of girls that love being around him, as far as he can tell, is scrambling to get a date to homecoming, despite asking 3 people now, please let me know. I think I get stuck in friend territory. Damnable friend territory, I curse thee!
Scary thing is, I brought this up and a few girls I know agreed, then suggested they find me a date. I trust them though, so its cool. Hell, I'd ask one of them if they both didn't already have dates.
On an unrelated note:
Good luck Charlie. Also, if you ever figure out how a guy who has a ton of girls that love being around him, as far as he can tell, is scrambling to get a date to homecoming, despite asking 3 people now, please let me know. I think I get stuck in friend territory. Damnable friend territory, I curse thee!
Scary thing is, I brought this up and a few girls I know agreed, then suggested they find me a date. I trust them though, so its cool. Hell, I'd ask one of them if they both didn't already have dates.
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